Today, July 3rd, is my daughter’s birthday. The daughter I thought I would never be good enough for (you can read why here) turns 8 years old today. People try to tell you before you have kids that time flies, but what they don’t fully explain is that as you blink the years are passing by.
One of the biggest joys in my life has been watching my kids grow up and sprinkle the magic of themselves into the world. Instead of feeling sad, I embrace the growth and changes in our relationship the older they get and welcome each year, yes even the teenage ones, with open arms.
Over the last few weeks as we talked about my daughter’s birthday and were making plans to celebrate, she wanted to know why turning 8 was so great. Besides the fact that usually her gift is a travel experience type of present, so she had that to look forward to, there were many other reasons.
Now as a parent I don’t condone this, but a minor lie every now and again is necessary especially when it comes to dealing with kids. Let me explain why I lied to my daughter and told her 8 is great.
The truth about why I lied to my daughter and told her 8 is great is because it is a saying I have heard so many times in my life, plus it rhymes (just being honest here). It was the simplest answer I could provide at that moment in time.
The reality is and what I wished I could have fully explained to her is that each and every age comes complete with its own greatness, not just 8.
Now I am not saying that my daughter’s 8th birthday isn’t special or great, but every birthday, whether it is 8, 14 or 38, provides you with a chance to reflect, change and grow.
Here are some things I want my best girlfriend to know, not just today, but each year on her birthday.
I hope she remembers to always understand and value her worth. In case she ever forgets, luckily she has her father, her brother and I to constantly remind her.
I want her to spend the most time with people who inspire, encourage, challenge and support her in life.
I need her to be a magic maker and use her strongest voice to help shift and the world in a positive direction.
Each birthday I hope is a reminder to her to hold her standards higher than her signature topknots.
Yes 8 is great, but as she gets older I hope she fills her life full of adventures instead of material things.
The reason why I lied to my daughter and told her 8 was great, is because it was a simple answer. I didn’t want to overwhelm my beautiful, sassy, yet often anxiety filled little girl with all of my hopes, dreams, wishes and goals for her at not just 8, but every single age.